Wednesday, May 28, 2008

My Dad's Wives

My brother has been blogging about my Dad's love life.    It really is as pathetic as it sounds.  I've never really talked to anyone about my Dad's second wife, Linda, except to my family.  Partly, because I really didn't know her, and partly, because what I didn't know of her I didn't like.

I don't think Linda liked me either because I would tell her and my Dad if I thought they were treating my youngest brother badly.  Such as leaving him alone when he was 13 for a week so they could honeymoon.  Or making him sleep in the laundry room for a bedroom.  Or saying unkind things about my mother.  But I didn't know the extent of how bad it was until after the accident.

Shortly after my Dad married Linda I was visiting some people from our church.  This woman is someone I love and she knew my mother quite well.  A little while into the conversation it became apparent that Linda had been talking about me and how I was resentful of her.  The woman from church told me, "Linda's good for your father.  She lights a fire under him.  Your Dad needs her."  How do you respond to that?  Do I tell her that Linda isn't as great as you think she is?  Do I tell her that my Dad removed his name from my mother's grave stone so he could "keep the peace" with Linda.  I would only look like the jealous and resentful stepdaughter.  So I said nothing.

But neither of us really knew how bad it was.

5 comments:

Grandma J said...

I came here from Jason's site. I can't imagine the pain Linda caused your family, especially your Father and your Mother's good name. Hopefully Jason will bring his readers up to date on you father and his present marriage, which I pray is a happy one. Thank you for addressing a painful subject.

Grandma J said...

I came here from Jason's site. I can't imagine the pain Linda caused your family, especially your Father and your Mother's good name. Hopefully Jason will bring his readers up to date on you father and his present marriage, which I pray is a happy one. Thank you for addressing a painful subject.

Karen said...

I read about this on Jason's site too. The idea of him enduring so much because he was ashamed is so sad.
And I think you were right to just stay quiet and keep the peace at the time. If you couldn't change the situation there was no reason to make it worse. Who knows how she would've reacted had she heard.

Jason said...

I forgot about the gravestone thing. How could I have forgotten about that?
And I've been purposely avoiding addressing Tiffany because it's just too awkward.

Elizabeth granger said...

Katrine, it is so sad that your family had to go through this on top of your Mom's passing. You never said a mean word about Linda-just that they had been in an accident-you are a better woman than I will ever be. OK and now the Alzhiemer's thing ...I will think twice before I complain today about anything...your poor father.

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